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Daniel Tosh Chuckles Through Own Violent Rape:

‘You Just Gotta Laugh,’ Reports Comedian Through Blood And Tears


Aaaaaaand the Onion just told a rape joke.

The point about not telling raping jokes because they enable and preserve rape culture is to never tell them at all, not counter rape jokes by telling more rape jokes. Why is this a difficult concept?

To be honest, I think it’s possible to tell a rape joke that is both insightful, thoughtful and tragic. Comedy and satire is not always about a guffaw and I do believe that one of it’s great advantages, is that it can get people to go to a very scary place with little resistance. To consider aspects of life they wouldn’t otherwise. Rape jokes can and often do veer into incredibly distasteful territory, but what I’m saying is: they don’t have to. 

Which is not to say that I think anybody needs to tolerate a rape joke. But I think calling something wrong across the board 100% of the time, does a disservice to what satire/comedy can actually accomplish.

That article is actually really disturbing and terrifying and as such shows just how awful Daniel Tosh really is. How disgusting what he was advocating was.  In this case, I honestly think this piece satire does not preserve rape culture, but actually is actively battling against it. 

I could not disagree more and there’s a very good reason why: rapists think all men rape and joking about it only cements this belief:

6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.

6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.

A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?

Rapists do.

They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.

Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.

And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…

Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.

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Being born a woman is an awful tragedy… Yes, my consuming desire to mingle with road crews, sailors and soldiers, bar room regulars - to be a part of a scene, anonymous, listening, recording - all is spoiled by the fact that I am a girl, a female always in danger of assault and battery. My consuming interest in men and their lives is often misconstrued as a desire to seduce them, or as an invitation to intimacy. Yet, God, I want to talk to everybody I can as deeply as I can. I want to be able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night…
Sylvia Plath, on rape culture (via orcrist)

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I think this speaks for itself.


I think this speaks for itself.

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Rape Culture Pro Tip


If someone is not strongly and widely chastised and disowned for using “I’ll rape a pregnant bitch and call it a threesome” in song lyrics, then our society has a giant fucking problem.

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The politics of race and ethnicity will likely obscure the real issue at hand in the New York Times’ coverage of the case: we continue to live in a nation that encourages rape, even sanctions it—what some rightly call a rape culture—because we are fundamentally unwilling to invoke the language that correctly captures the brutality of such acts. A rape is a rape—not an act of sexual violence, not a forced sex act, not a misunderstanding. If our major corporate media outlets are unwilling to call rape by its name, than how can we expect our children to know what rape is?

Mark Anthony Neal, A Rape Is a Rape - Not an Act of Sex

{Trigger warning for discussion of sexual assault/rape}

I can’t stop thinking about this quote, which is specifically referring to this story, as I look at the New York Times coverage of the arrest of Dominique Strauss-Kahn. In two major articles over the weekend the headlines referred to “charges of criminal sexual act, attempted rape, and an unlawful imprisonment in connection with a sexual assault” as a “sexual attack” and as a “sex attack”. I find the use of those terms incredibly distressing. For one, it is not a legal term. Second, the use of these terms suggests that perpetrators of rape and sexual assault are driven solely by a desire for sex as opposed to the need to exercise power, dominance, and violent behavior. Third, the use of “sex attack” to me sounds like the paper is deliberately diminishing the horrific nature of the charges against Strauss-Kahn and leaving the door wide open for the public to see this as yet another incidence of a woman “changing her mind after consenting”. Folks, it is wholly indicative of rape culture when the US newspaper of record demonstrates itself incapable of using precise and legally accepted language w/r/t to allegations rape and sexual assault while perpetuating the horrifically common practice of victim-blaming. (via damekatharsis)

You know, it’s not like a person gets thrown in jail without bail for hittin’ it a little too enthusiastically with an otherwise eager hotel maid, and that is exactly what sex attack sounds like to me. If a “criminal sexual act” isn’t rape, then what the hell is it?

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